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Online Personal Ads - How to Talk to Women

by: JayReiss,M.S.W.
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As an Online Dating Coach, I read a lot of Internet personal ads that - quite frankly - surprise me! Some of the guys who write Online Personal Ads seem to be writing ads that are designed to sell used cars. And from the women? I often see personal ads that even low-end mail order catalogs would refuse.

Here's one example. This ad was submitted by a woman in her early 40's -

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"I love to talk about books that have struck you bizarre or interesting. I do want someone to hang out with, and must enjoy talking about politics, books, places and wine. Must love chocolate!"

Talking about everything? For the sake of keeping the conversation going, some guys would no doubt go along with that one (or at least, they would try) but when it comes to "bizarre books," then her options might start slimming down a bit. It's always interesting to see how many women love chocolate. I understand there's something in chocolate that works like a stimulant in the brain. Can you imagine reading an Online Dating Ad that says, "the main thing is that you love coffee"? Do we have an addictive personality type here?

With an online dating ad like the ad above, I can only imagine the types of guys who'd reply!

Or - take a look at this online personal ad, from a 29-year-old guy who describes himself as a "Tattoo Teddy Bear" --

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"i just want a good girl that knows how to treat a man with respect."

Short, sweet, and to the point, yes?

After reading ads like this, I can really understand why so many men and women are communicating at cross-purposes!

One of the most important concepts I'd like to convey is this: When you sit down to write your Online Dating Ads, always write them just like you're having a regular conversation!

In other words, here's what NOT to do:

1. Don't write your ad so it sounds like advertising copy from a magazine.

2. Don't talk in a condescending manner. Be polite and treat everyone like your equal!

3. Never write a short (one or two sentence) ad. You just can't say enough in a short ad to really "sell" yourself properly!

Instead, here are some of the things that you absolutely should be doing --

1. Mention some of your hobbies, interests, and what you enjoy doing on a date. Try to paint an accurate yet imaginative picture of yourself as a real person (and an interesting person at that!)

2. Give your reader a sense of how they will feel when you two are together on a date. Put yourself in the shoes of your reader. Be empathic, be sensitive to their needs, and try to anticipate what they might be thinking and feeling while reading your online personal ad.

3. What are some of your best personality characteristics? What are some of the things that people really appreciate about you? Here's the place to really sell yourself by listing your intangible qualities.

4. What's the benefit (i.e., the "payoff") for answering your ad right now? And finally...

5. Don't forget to spell-check your ad before you submit it!

If you follow the guidelines I've suggested above, you'll be on your way to a very successful Internet Dating experience!

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