FollowText.com » Relationships » Dating » Useful Mindsets for Disarming Male Competition-I

Useful Mindsets for Disarming Male Competition-I

by: VinDiCarlo
Total views: 5 | Word Count: 543

Have you ever avoided talking to a woman just because she was talking to another guy?

Or maybe you fear of getting embarrass if you approached a group of girls with one or two guys with them because you ASSUMED that those guys were cooler than you.

There are two reasons why guys have a fear in talking with women who were with other guys.

Most guys when they saw the girl being with another guy, they think it is her boyfriend.

This shouldn't be the basis of not talking to a woman. Especially in a social setting like in the bar, where people meet other people. Plus - that woman is not a "slave" of the guy or a piece of property, she's a human being and is free to whomever she chooses to talk to.

Approaching oftenly a woman who is "with" a guy can make you look more confident, and draw out the jealous side of the guy, making him look insecure and weak.

The second reason why guys don't approach woman who is "with" a guy points to a deep insecurity based on a simple misconception.

Men tend to be threatened by other men, they assumed that the "other guy" is more cooler, stronger, or somehow powerful than they are.

This comes from an ancient survival strategy that had been fixed into human brain.

The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious, and it's hard to tell who the more "dominant" person is in any given interaction. So when a male is confronted by another male, he doesn't know how dominant the other guy is.

A guy doesn't know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

So it's smart to play it safe by assuming that the other guy is a threat. Males who were too bold may have won a few confrontations, but all it took was one loss to end up dead or exiled from the tribe.

And then their genes were eliminated from "race" so to speak.

Those guys that avoided confrontation and played safe are the one that can successfully reproduce and survive.

The irony is that most of approach anxiety nowadays have the basis on this hard-wired survival strategy - the false assumptions of the guys will lead them to unnecessarily avoid women.

The thing is, most times when you see a woman talking to another guy in the bar or club, she's not WITH him.

Usually, they JUST MET!

I can't tell you how many times I've approached a woman thinking she was "with" a guy, only to find out he was some random dude who just approached her. Or he was just a friend or relative.

I think of all the times I completely avoided talking to a woman because I saw her with another guy. I regret having missed so many opportunities. Which brings me to my first point:

YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO HER. DON'T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL YOU SEE PHYSICAL EVIDENCE.

You will know it if you try to act and find out. Just remember that in time that they are together you should be alert an respectful, the guy may be the insecure jealous type and may start a confrontation.

So use your brain - just don't be stagnant in making a false assumptions.

About the Author

Get a FREE 45 minute masterclass on The Attraction Code. You can sign up here: Mystery Method and also receive the Attraction Code Letter delivered straight to your inbox.

Useful Mindsets for Disarming Male Competition-I

About the Author

More Articles from: Dating